Grief is not a bad word!

In 2017, I posted a social media post in reference to how I’ve been dealing with my grief. The post read:
GOOD GRIEF. A few people have asked me how I’m dealing with grief during the holidays. I’m sharing here in hopes that it might help someone who reads. I’m honestly still a bit shocked at the losses in my life this year, and I still get a lil sad. To not stay sad, this is what I do:

1. I get lots of rest and take my time! I notice that I get a bit more vulnerable and emotional when I’m tired and that can easily derail me into getting into a funk. So if I feel it coming I shut everything down and take care of me.
2. I pursue joy. If you’re laughing I’m sitting next to you because I want to laugh too lol. I look for funny!! The Bible says that there’s healing and strength in a chuckle. 😉
3. I keep myself busy in my thinking so that I’m not sitting and meditating on tragedy and how it feels all day. If I keep my mind stayed – I’ll be kept in peace. Whatever you meditate on the most will expand.
4. I spend time with Holy Spirit – my Comforter. Loss and tragedy is a matter too great for me. One time crying to Holy Spirit about it all, He said “You should listen to my narrative” He began to share with me how He would read my story and I found His version hopeful and full of life after death. He is such a sweet gift! ❤️
5. I give. There’s nothing like giving to others to silence those raging emotions. Not in denial of how you feel but to shift those feelings towards a productive activity.
6. I do all of my favorite things, and hang with my favorite people! Give yourself things to look forward to. Like I’m going ice skating one of these days. Who’s coming? lol. I’m still on the fence with whether I’m joining friends for Christmas dinner, staying in my cute Christmas pjs watching Holiday movies, or both.
7. I allow myself space to feel. When you’re in your bed by yourself, in your car alone, or in the middle of the aisle at Target and your tears tumble out quicker than you can catch them – let them. It’s ok.
I’m praying for you whether it’s a loss or just a rough patch. I love you! ❤️
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There was so much feedback from others wrestling with grief and I wanted to dig deeper into the conversation so I hit one of my good friends, Torrie Chatman, to share this convo. Drop a comment below and share your thoughts on this topic. I would love to hear from you!